Sunday, August 31, 2014

'GOFUNDME' was a JOKE

I rather thought that me avid readers knew me well.  Was quite sure that they would see the joke.  There were some who did not.

I was just trying to prove a point.  Still am in shock that the young man in Georgia was able to get $93,000.00.  More shock that one person wrote on site that she was hoping to push the fund to over $100,000.00 be fore it was shut down.  She did not make it, the fund was closed at just over $93,000.00.

Tis a pity, me fund is a bust, I was so looking forward to a nice holiday in south of France, a new car, watch, giant telly and a massive mobility chair.....

Saturday, August 30, 2014

SHOW ME THE MONEY



I am gobsmacked at a recent article and funding request by a young gay man which raised over $90,000 before it was closed off.  Got me thinking it did....

If a young gay man who lost housing in his parents house can strike such cord with folks, I wonder what one from an OLD man might do.

Just think of the possibilities.....

I could get better hearing devices.  Implants even.  Throw away the cane and run round town in a fancy mobility chair.   Move into fancy apartment.  Take a few trips.  Buy clothes.

I would spend all of the cash on ME.

Truth be told, I rather think I will be lucky to collect a single dollar.  No one cares about an old gay man...



The site suggested posing a picture that got folks sorry for.  Rather think I should have used this snap.  Has real 'pity' quality to it...






GAY MAN RAKES IN THE CASH



20-year-old who was kicked out by his religious parents after he came out as gay has received almost $50,000 in donations to help him start a new life.

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http://www.gofundme.com/dnoqgg 

The above link takes you to the site that the boyfriend of the young man set up.  When last looked, over $93,000.00  has been contributed to the young man.

Who knew that being 'gay' could be worth so much....

I have a real problem with the fact the the young man secretly filmed his coming out to his parents.  On some level he must have know that his coming out would not be well received.  Why film the chat with his mother?

I rather think that there was an agenda to the whole filmed bit.  That part really bothers me.  Seems so underhanded.

Then there is the whole business of the boyfriend putting up an advert to beg for donations.  Rather slick if you ask me.

One thing is for certain, however 'gay' the young man and his boyfriend may be, there are clever by half...

OLD GEEZER TRUTHS


Perks of Being an Old Geezer


1.
Kidnappers are not very interested in you. OAP's have no cash.
2.
In a hostage situation you are likely to be released first.  Bit hard for clever clogs to provide loo time...
3.
No one expects you to run--anywhere.
4.
People call at 6 pm and ask, did I wake you?
5.
People no longer view you as a hypochondriac.  You really are falling apart...
6.
There is nothing left to learn the hard way.
7.
Things you buy now won't wear out.
8.
You can eat supper at 4 pm.
9.
You can live without sex but not your glasses.
10.
You get into heated arguments about pension plans.
11.
You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.
12.
You quit trying to hold your stomach in no matter who walks into the room.
13.
You sing along with elevator music.  Barry Manalow is a God...
14.
Your eyes won't get much worse.  Just your hearing...
15.
Your investment in health insurance is finally beginning to pay off.

16. Your joints are more accurate meteorologists than the national weather service.
17.
Your secrets are safe with your friends because they can't remember them either.
18.
Your supply of brain cells is finally down to manageable size.
19.
You can't remember who sent you this list.
Forward this to everyone you can remember right now!

And Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.

Friday, August 29, 2014

PRESIDENT REAGAN 'TOUCHED' ME

Ronald Reagan
I want to always remember a President of the United States that I both admired and respected greatly.

During the time that Ronald Reagan was President of the United States there were many who thought him a simple man who was 'out to lunch' most of the time. Folks called him thick as a brick and out of touch with what was important in this country. The names called were not just reserved for him but spilled out onto his wife, Nancy. To many, President Reagan was an object of ridicule. Ronald Reagan was 'President of the United States' but many wanted to believe that he was not 'President of ALL of America'. That Ronald Reagan was just interested in that part of America he saw.

Long before Ronald Reagan died MOI would tell folks that when the time came for him to leave us, there would be a massive outpouring of love for him. MOI was right.

It is possible that MOI has been far more fortunate than most. In life I have had the opportunity to make contact with folks I reached out to. Ronald Reagan was one of these.

My long time companion died of AIDS. In 2014, it is hard to remember just how horrid it was to be known as a victim of AIDS. When John and MOI were told that John was going to die of AIDS, we did not hide that fact. John asked what we should do. MOI told him that we had an obligation to be open and honest, not to hide his illness. We told one and all.  It was important to know who one's true friends were.

Ronald Reagan was one of the folks we shared with. Moi wrote to President Reagan.  Can just see heads shaking and tongues clucking at the cheek of the old geezer.  Who writes to the President?  More important, who gets a reply? A personal touch?

Truth be told, the old geezer had met Ronald Reagan on several occasions.  True, they were fund raisers and there were loads of other folks in the room as well.  The old geezer was not a close personal friend to Mr. Reagan, but close enough to be on a list somewhere as one who he had met and had got support from.

In short order, a lovely letter came back from. The President was at his home in California and the letter was written from there. What touched my most was that he wrote that both he and Nancy was sad to hear that John was sick and going to die. That John was in their prayers and they sent their best wishes . Ronald Reagan took the time to remember.  Took the time to write a personal letter, one that John was over the moon to have received.

During the course of John's illness there were two more letters received.  One day a large envelope arrived from 'The White House'.  Inside was a beautiful photograph of the President and Mrs. Reagan, taken at Camp David.  The President and Mrs. Reagan wrote some lovely comments on the photograph and both signed.

Many in America want to believe that at a time when President Reagan could have done much for AIDS, he did nothing. That is not true. President Reagan did what he thought was right. He made sure that folks with AIDS received Social Security. He did many things that many will never remember. I will always remember that efforts to write to and draw attention to AIDS were always well received at the Reagan White House. At a time in my life, when I was very down, President Ronald Reagan and his wife reached out to and made me realize that not only John and myself mattered but were a part of the American family.

I rather think that President Reagan saw the best of America and never lost sight of that.

Many years later, AIDS is still here, folks are still getting infected and many will die. There will always be some who believe that no one cares.  That America let them down.  I am not one of those people.

Life is a very personal experience.  My feelings for President Reagan are not political, they are deeply personal.  Thoughts in recent days of John made me remember what was felt of Ronald Reagan and how kind he and his wife had been to us.

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Ray Jessel: 84-Year-Old Sings a Naughty Original Song - America's Got Ta...

'Je peux rire dans le français'


Standing upon the pavement the other evening, I was gobsmacked to hear a chap tell that he was capable of laughing 'in french'.  This old geezer has been to and lived in France and never knew that a part of his education was missing, the ability to 'laugh' had not been learned.

Impressed by the chap's self professed ability, this old geezer darned to asked if it was a skill that he could pass on to.  He went on to 'laugh' with a french accent...

Right, you have by now caught on that it was a bit of a giggle.  Clever it was to hear the laugh.

Being helpful, I took to seeking out the perfect French laugh to share with the chap from the pavement.  Am quite sure that the 'french' laugh featured in the film bit will 'haunt' one and all for some time to come.

J'espère que mes amis à Paris ne seront pas fous à la plaisanterie...

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

J'ai une personnalité aux couleurs vives


Dear reader, if you have followed me adventures any length of time, you be 'au fait' with the multi-faceted personality that be this old geezer.  It is what it is and have long since given up trying to please all  or to be universally loved.  Both being impossible to achieve.

The dichotomy of MOI is that for as flamboyant moments are, there be very many more private.

Having lived in me skin these 66 years, I am well aware of what some believe the old geezer to be.  I am not clueless and have dealt with all of life.  Lucky for MOI, there was no one to live for but self and the path chosen was done with ease, some regret and pain, but ease.

Recently, a chap had a burning desire to have his beliefs about the character of this old geezer affirmed.  Fancy that...

Learning of the request, this old geezer had a chat with the chap and told quite directly that if asked, he would get his answer.  He asked and I answered.  Being of the mind that it all was rather silly, one can only wonder of what value his new found information will have.

This old geezer is curious of others.   That curiosity does not extend into areas that are none of business.  I do not spend loads of time wondering about the intimate side of folks met.  Bit rude if you ask me.  Mind, if one wants to tell of wickedness, I do so love a good tale...

However 'public' my life seems, it is controlled.  I share only that which I wish to share.  Mind, as with all things, some are more blessed than others.  Were folks to want to know more of, there is quite a lot of information on the INTERNET.  What secrets there be, are few, more of a deeply personal nature, rather than of wicked.  Sorry to disappoint some, there is no great sin to reveal.

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

EFFECTS OF SMOKING!!! A must watch video..

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ALCOHOL FREE BIRTHDAY FOR PAUL

Today is Paul's 72nd birthday.  As these things go, getting to 72 is not that unusual, unless you are a world class drunk and have spent the better part of 2014 inside a bottle.

Paul is my friend.  I like Paul. I do not like his behaviour.  I believe that if you are a good friend to someone, you need to speak up when their behaviour is harmful.

For the past two months, Paul has been recovering from his latest visit to hospital for alcoholism.  Truth be told, this was not first visit to hospital due to alcohol abuse.  Having heard all of the lies about not drinking ever again, I was more than inclined to believe that it would be a short time before the bottle was out and Paul was not able to cope anymore.  I will not lie.  I doubted that Paul was going to stop drinking.  I am not totally convinced that Paul will never drink again, but I am willing to promote his current good behaviour and egg him on to put more and more time between he and the bottle.

Presents have been bought and a nice supper at a lovely restaurant is planned for the big day.

With a little bit of luck, we will be celebrating another birthday next year, alcohol free...

Monday, August 25, 2014

ENGLISH BREAKFAST MISSED


The normal ingredients of a traditional full English breakfast are bacon, poached or fried eggs, fried or grilled tomatoes, fried mushrooms, toast with butter and sausages, usually served with a cuppa.  Baked beans and hash browns are also commonly considered an important part of the breakfast. As nearly everything is fried in this meal, the term "fry-up" is quite accurate. Originally a way to use up leftover vegetables from the main meal of the day before, bubble and squeak, shallow-fried leftover vegetables with potato, has become a breakfast feature in its own right. Onions, either fried or in rings, occasionally appear. When an English breakfast is ordered to contain everything available it is often referred to as a Full English, or a Full Monty.

One must not forget the porridge...


One thing i like about me being fat

If someone bullies you because you're fat, eat 'em

Weight-loss, being happy, and confidence

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Coldplay - True Love (Official video)

'FAT' IS SELF HATE


Truth be told, the old geezer loathes the film "Forrest Gump", but the famous line from the film mucked about to use in the above snap is so true.

Whilst waiting for the lift, in a building visited, there appeared a super obese women in a massive mobility chair.  Her ankles were so massive they could have been thighs on a normal person.  What made her stand out was her shouting cross the lobby to a chap working a counter serving goodies.  "Do you have any donuts today?", the super obese lady shouted as she almost ran over folks in way of her 'mobility tank'.

To make matters worse, another super obese lady showed up to take the lift and wanted us to hold the lift for her and the lady in the mobility chair.  Horrid.

It got me to thinking.....



Right, there will be some thinking that the old geezer is being ever so mean.  Rubbish.



Robert - 2014

Robert -  2007

The whole world knows that MOI was massive in size.  429 pounds in weight is not a pretty sight.  It was hard work to lose over 240 pounds.  No magic bullet.  Just knowing that if one did not put something into cake hole it did not wind up as lard on body.

Now, am on a different diet.  The "No Taste" diet.  Best diet ever on.  With ease, the push away from table happens and have no doubt that weight will be quite normal soon.  What can MOI say, it works for MOI.  Love of groceries is gone but think on what is gained.  Might live another 30 years...

Read an article in Daily Mail that told of MP's wanting the government to make calling folks "Fatty" on same level as other hate crimes.  Right daft if you ask MOI.  Sure it hurts to be pointed out as "FAT", pretty hard to hide the blatant.




If one is honest, most folks do not find FAT attractive.  Have mates who have told they would never date a FAT person.  Seen folks get up and move away from a FAT person in a restaurant.  Who wants a FAT person next to on a long flight?

Call me wrong, but the old geezer thinks FAT is self hate.  Truth be told, the old geezer got obese due to self loathing.  Joy was sought after in a bowl of ice cream, candy and too many pizza pies.

I was the only person who caused me to be massive in size.  It was not 'big' bones, or a gland problem, and did not have a tumor growing inside of.  I was not born FAT.  I used food to fill a void in my life.  I hated every minute of my FATNESS.

MOI thinks it sad that so many folks are massive in size, but also is aware that one can do something about it.  If one wants to.  It took just a trip to doctor to remind of what folks do to themselves to shorten life.  MOI wants to live and be skinny enough for folks to toss into the ground when dead.

Saturday, August 23, 2014

TALK ABOUT A DIFFERENT COFFEE

The world's most expensive coffee, priced at $70 per serving, is made from elephant poo.

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 The taste is chocolate malt with a bit of cherry; there's no bitterness; and it's very soft... it's kind of like a cross between coffee and tea'

July 24th - A Day in Me Life on Earth - 2010


Cheeky bugger be this old geezer. Mind, you already know that...
Today is the day devoted to all on YouTube to film a bit of life and send in to be part of a global 'day in the life on Earth', with selected filmed bits being used for a film to be presented at the Sundance Film Festival. Can you imagine?
With undiluted pleasure this old geezer faces each day, considering the alternative. Having no shame, MOI sits with cuppa in bed clothes and ponders this day.
Clueless as to how this day will turn out but very much wanting to see how it unfolds and what new stories are heard and what wondrous sights are seen.
Will tell you true, the water cooler makes for interesting tool in promoting conversation and do so love getting folks to draw near and chat...

Friday, August 22, 2014

ACTIVISM IS MY RENT ON EARTH - LINDA REMEMBERED









My dears, at some point one has to try and make a difference.  To be told that one person can not make a difference is but so much tosh.  Like any 'urban legend', if repeated oft enough it takes on life of own and tends to be taken as truth.

Dear reader, were all to feel, that it would be a sad world we live in.  How horrid to think that due to things being one way, change is impossible, that once turned to custard, things can not be sorted out and made proper.  Over the past few years, many have told MOI that the rose-coloured glasses worn are bit dated, that one has to view the world, or patch of earth lived on, with all of the grit kept in place.

Past places lived have offered challenge and opportunity to try and make a difference.  Results were mixed.  Lives had been turned round and social change happened to a degree.  At some point one comes to realization that lasting change will only come about if the folks one is trying to save are truly interested in accepting a new path and stop clinging to the attitude of 'entitlement'.  Truth be told, there are some who feel more comfy living in a blighted community as it enables them to be benefits cheats and lazy layabout scroungers.  It is OK for drugs to be sold and the poison it is  continue to ruin any hope of a better life.  More's the pity that.

"In order to turn a sow's ear into a silk purse, it helps to start with a silk sow."

Linda be that 'silk sow'.  Abused and forgot, folks lost footing on life's path and settled for less than deserved.  Regardless, the community is still there, just waiting for the dead branches to be cut away and the ground to be watered and made ready for new growth to spring forth.  Sounds a bit much?  Depends on who you chat with and what you have see of the level of interest in being made more brilliant.

This old geezer has been blessed.  Met many lovely folks  in Linda and community round.  Am just willing to listen to stories told and try to reach out to folks.  Grand as that may be, it is for naught unless you capture like minded folks along the path, willing to join in the efforts.  I have been gobsmacked at how much support is out there.

To be true, it started with top copper of Yuba County promising to take an active interest.  Add in Supervisor Andy Vasquez, toss in Supervisor John Nicoletti and mix in the coppers and ordinary folks willing to do extra-ordinary things, and you begin to get the picture.  One has to also give credit to Murray Kay, who partnered with and has come to see that sorting out the Linda Villa was the morally right thing to do.

Community activism is multi-layered.  One has to have more than a vision.  Helps to have tools to right some of the social ills that plague a troubled community.  Being able to fix up flats and offer good housing to deserving folks.  Folks who have limited cash but want to be safe and responsible.  A place that children can live and play without fear of coming into contact with the wrong sort.

Taking a huge hit in the pocketbook and getting bad folks out of units.  There is no future in renting to folks who deal poison or use it.  Expose their children to a poison that can ruin young lives.  There is no high to be got from poison, it is a complete downer and destroys all it touches.

The snaps featured with this post tell part of the story.  Horrid it is that folks just hurl broken furniture round bin and into.  Linda Villa is not to be in business of rubbish removal, it just plays out that way.  Bad folks who refuse to accept any responsibility.  Why should they, they live in a throw-away society and see selves as throw-aways.  Tenants and folks round who have no shame in 'dumping' on the Linda Villa.  In order to bring lasting change one has to suffer a few blows and this be one of them.

Rounding up 17 strays and removing has made life better at the Linda Villa.  No one is ever going to get this old geezer to feel that it was humane to feed growing population of cats.  Or that it is OK to allow dogs to poo where they may and not clean up after.  Not a popular action, but one MOI can live with.  Am not here to be everyone's best mate.  One has to knock a few heads together.

I abhor crude and filthy language, almost as much as I loathe folks who spew hatred.  Racial or lifestyle.  Unacceptable.  Having been viewed with hate in life, am acutely aware of how horrid it be.  To teach children hate words continues the cycle.

This old geezer is far from perfect.  I am trying to be more perfect and to make a difference.  How grand to know that path is filled with like minded folks.

"If you change things in one way, you change them in other ways."  I passionately believe that.

For the first time in ages am of the opinion that social activism in Linda can turn round the community.  Folks deserve better than received in past.  Public opinion is being changed, and Linda, the Linda Villa, the brilliant new neighbours moving in and the old neighbours cleaning up act are making that easier and easier.

I have been called a shameless self promoter in getting ink in local newspaper.  If that be price paid to draw attention to patch of earth live on, so be it.  More's the pity that more do not do.

Nothing kills a community more quickly than apathy.  From all heard about Linda, the good folks did nothing to correct the impression that Linda was DEAD.  Folks were too quick to jump on the bandwagon and spread the rumour that all was lost in this community.  To be true, there is loads of blame to go round.

Local Merchants forgot that customers have to be gone after, cultivated to the point that they truly want to come to Linda to shop, eat or live.  The Air Force community has not been brilliant either.  Linda is at the door step to the Air Force base, any guess how many of the folks stationed there live in Linda?  What about the local college?  Do many of the students lived round?

Linda has been robbed of its personality.  So much so, the postcode for Linda is Marysville.  How silly is that?  Linda matters so little that it can not even proclaim self in the post code?

Call me daft, and it may well apply to some degree.  I have propensity to be pedantic.  Some might even go so far as to say shrill.  Whatever.  Truth be told, I live in this community.  I want to see it be as brilliant as possible.  Want more and more folks to step forward and try to make a difference.  Passionately want folks in Yuba County to know that Linda contains lovely folks who are part of what makes the county a special place to live.

What I want and what I will get are two different things.  That is just the way of it, my dears.  I will just continue to bang on for change.

Thursday, August 21, 2014

REPORTAGE FROM THE PAST



Many of the new readers of this old geezer has asked about past events in life.  They want to know of where I came from and what I did.  Truth be told they want to know the dirt about Fresno...

Not sure if MOI is capable of serving up a horrid tale of personal past.  Can give readers a taste of what was written of in the past.  The following article appeared in the Fresno Bee on Boxing Day, 2007.  It set the stage for much that followed during the time in Fresno.  The writer was most kind and the story got loads of interest, and to this day still get comments on from folks.


FRESNO MAN CLEANS UP CALAVERAS STREET

Diana Marcum

The Fresno Bee

Originally published 2007-12-26

The new neighbor on Calaveras Street doesn't quite fit in.

For one thing, he calls the police "coppers." For another, he calls the police.

On a downtown street where many residents have learned to look the other way when they see a steady stream of upscale cars arrive and make a quick, suspicious stop, Rob DeFrees keeps the police on his speed dial.

He's given to "banging on," as he calls it, about Calaveras Street. He writes pedantic letters to city officials, the newspaper and the chief of police about everything from trimming trees to the difference between poverty and despair. He's started a Web site (calaverasstreet.com), where he keeps a chatty diary about daily goings-on, neighbors with tidy yards, thoughts on his Christmas card list -- and a hall of shame of suspected slumlords on his street.

DeFrees, who says he was called "the Tarzan of the Tenderloin" decades ago when he was a property manager fighting urban grittiness in San Francisco, is now aiming to be the Crusader of Calaveras. He moved into the neighborhood in July as a caretaker for a rundown rental property and decided he'd found his cause.

He describes himself as an "old bugger." The 60-year-old white, gay man with a puzzling penchant for British phrasing (he was born and raised in Pennsylvania) raised a few eyebrows as he first went door to door on Calaveras Street introducing himself.

The next thing he did was take the bars off the property he is caring for, further convincing the neighbors that he was odd.

"If one is going to live somewhere, one has to live there. Not cower behind bars," he says. "It gives the wrong impression."

Even on a map, Fresno's downtown neighborhoods are off-kilter. The rest of the city is on a north-south grid, but downtown is like a circle cut out then rotated a third of the way around.

These streets boast some of the city's remaining historical houses, architecture from a time when the area was grand. In another city, a street like Calaveras might have become a choice neighborhood. But Fresno has a history of not safeguarding its history, and many of the street's classic homes were long ago replaced with motel-style apartments or carved up into boarding houses with rooms that rent cheaply.

Some of the people who live on Calaveras -- in the shadow of the downtown skyline, within walking distance of a McDonald's -- are here because it's all they can afford. But DeFrees is the latest in a long line of people staking a claim and making a home, by choice, on one of Fresno's oldest streets.

Robert Macias and his family moved to Calaveras Street 13 years ago because of their house, an Eastlake Victorian moved to the site in 1921.

Macias comes to his front door when DeFrees knocks, even though he worked a night shift as a production supervisor for a roofing manufacturing plant, and could use a few more hours sleep. They sit in the living room of the lovingly restored home with its big Christmas tree and bowl of cinnamon potpourri and discuss the roughness just outside.

In a way, it's the passing of the baton.

Macias, 57, and his wife are selling their house. The children are grown. They want to move to the country and own horses.

But he's fond of life in the inner city.

"It's disruptive. Your life becomes chaotic. But it becomes satisfying because you feel you're doing what you should be doing," he says. "You step outside your own culture. You step outside yourself."

In practical terms, he says, this comes down to backyard versus front yard. In more affluent neighborhoods, people live their lives privately in their backyards.

"In the inner city, everything's out front. We have barbecues in the driveway and neighbors invite themselves."

Over the past dozen or so years, Macias has watched the quality of life on Calaveras ebb and flow, sometimes more hopeful, sometimes more violent.

He gives DeFrees words of both encouragement and warning.

"I really believe one or two people on a street can make a difference. I've seen it," he tells him.

"But you're going to hit the wall, and then we'll see where you're at. It's not the big things. It's not the drug deals. It's not the gunfire. It's that you get so sick of people leaving trash on your lawn."

DeFrees shakes his head no.

"I won't let the rubbish be my undoing," he says. "I won't let a few ruffians tell me I can't have a proper garden."

Macias grins.

"Well, maybe that's the difference between me and you," he says. "I have garbage in my yard. You have rubbish."

Fresno Police officer David Rady, an investigator with a policing unit that covers Calaveras Street, says DeFrees' presence is making a difference.

"It's a challenging neighborhood. There's a fair share of parolees, a fair share of gang members. That neighborhood also has a lot of good families that have to sleep there and wake up there, but won't call our attention to problems."

Rady says DeFrees already has helped stop some of the drug trafficking.

"Someone like Mr. DeFrees, who isn't afraid, becomes a voice for all the good people who might not speak up. It has to start with someone. I don't know if it sounds corny or not -- but one person can make a difference in a neighborhood."

On his Web site, DeFrees has posted a cartoon of a knight in shining armor with a sign that says "I'm looking for someone to save."

"It's cheeky," he says. "But I suppose that's how I see myself."

In the case of his Calaveras Street mission, it's a case of mutual saving.

About a year ago, DeFrees had a bad reaction to pain medication and hovered near death.

He survived. And he was angry that he had lived.

"It made me re-evaluate what was going on in my life. To a large extent, I had checked out, given up."

He had spent years living the good life with a wealthy partner. After his mate died 20 years ago, he drifted a bit from place to place. Before coming to Fresno, he was living in San Diego, in a scene of what he calls "in-your-face-beauty. It's Botox injections and hair dye and the constant search for youth. If you're 60 and gay, you might as well be in a tomb. I figured my day in the sun was over."

Looking for a fresh chance, he chose Fresno.

"I threw a dart, so to speak. I had no clue what Fresno was about. But I'd lived in Europe and San Francisco and Hawaii. I figured Fresno was so foreign to anything I'd been in before that it would be an adventure."

He found an advertisement online from a couple looking for a caretaker.

Dave and Dottie Natal had spent their savings to buy a house on Calaveras Street. Their plan was to find tenants for the subdivided house and to use the collected rents as retirement income. Instead, the property had brought them nothing but trouble from bad tenants. They needed someone to help them clean up the mess and live on site to keep an eye on things.

DeFrees took the job. His "flat" is upstairs.

After moving in, he restarted the street's defunct neighborhood watch program, spending $50 of his own money to put up a sign.

In the early morning, well before sunrise, he walks the center of the street with a flashlight (he calls it a torch, of course) making sure all is quiet. Then he sweeps and washes the sidewalk in front of his house before settling in to listen to the BBC over the Internet and drink tea while working on his Web site. He spent seven years in England, which partly explains his Anglophilia.

He says he's never been happier.

"I'm having the time of my life. I have a purpose. My house looks clean. My street looks clean, and it matters. Wash-and-sweep is catching on."

Indeed, DeFrees says that not only did the house across the street recently clean up, they even put up Christmas decorations. He thinks it has something to do with his example. He was delighted -- and shocked.

"I was absolutely gobsmacked to see the lighted plastic Santa across the street," he says.

He's been reading up on the different historic homes nearby.

On a recent day, he was pointing out architectural details and historic tidbits of houses on Calaveras, like a guide on an architectural tour. ("This home is in the Queen Anne vernacular. Sounds very posh, doesn't it?")

Andrea Herrera, who spent 10 years living on Calaveras and still owns several historic rental homes on the street, walked over to say hello.

DeFrees gushed.

"She believed in this area for a long time. There is a core of decent people on this street. And that's all it takes. A core of decent people fighting hard," he says. "Little by little, wash-and-sweep will triumph."

Herrera laughed: "The way he talks is funny, but I like the things he says."

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Journey is Pointless without Friends

Having journeyed far and wide, I have no doubt there is still dust to collect on shoes on journeys yet to come.

I hold two axioms on friendship to be quite right.

False friendship, like Ivy, decays and ruins the walls it embraces;
but true friendship gives new life and animation to the object it supports.

I think of self as a true friend, but am blessed to hold near friends who clearly
enrich me more.

They know who they be...

On the other hand, I must also fess up to another truth about friendship;

I have had, and may still, a thousand friends, as they are called, in life, who
are like one's partners in the waltz of this world...not much  remembered when the
ball is over...

If I hurt anyone with my callow actions, I do so profoundly apologize, to the one's who missed
me not, that is the way of it.

Sunday, August 17, 2014

CALIFORNIA'S GOLD

Whether it's a divorcee posing in her wedding dress by the light of a charcoal grill or an 18-year-old afflicted by a skin condition that makes him appear far younger, The Trailer Park is a complex journey through a world more often cast in simple stereotypes.

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Saturday, August 16, 2014

'We mourn the dead but few mourn the living dead,'

'I am all alone and don’t seek human help. I still don’t know why I was born, I have this impression that I was just a prop, moved from place to place, whenever it was needed,' she said. 'Living alone, abandoned by the humans and judged often as an old nitwit, I have experienced moments of miracles and ingenuity.'

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Friday, August 15, 2014

FRIENDSHIP

True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.


Tuesday, August 12, 2014

WHAT A WASTE


Robin Williams takes his own life.  Suicide.  What a waste.

Rumour has it that he was much troubled by money worries.  That he was fighting depression.

I know a thing or two about depression.  I also know a thing or two about suicide.  The first time I tried to kill myself I was a boy.  Twice more, I thought 'checking out' was the answer to my problems.

Truth be told, I am very happy that I did not get my wish and die.  Just think what I would have missed.

True, life has been a series of trials, but then it is meant to be.  It takes real courage to keep going on.

I have known three people who have killed self.  There is not a day that goes by that I wonder how different things would have been, if they had just held on.  What adventures they have missed.

Tragic it is, that a very funny man chose to leave us sad...

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

GIFT OF TIME IS PRICELESS

You, who are 'au fait' with the postings of the old geezer, know that MOI thinks a great deal...

Last night, as I drifted off to sleep, the thought of 'time' came to me.  The idea of how it was spent and what it meant at the end of the day.

Having buckets of 'time' I try to share it with the folks cared about.

Truth be told, the old geezer feels he shares and spends 'time well.  Mind, there are some known to who seem to do a superior job of it.  Like the old lady met in Atlanta years ago.  She was living in a retirement home and spent loads of time reading stories to children.  So much time, she was called the 'Story Book Lady'.  She wanted to feel connected and felt this was something she could do, enriching her life and the lives of others.

Time is the one gift that I can give daily.  Makes me feel warm and fuzzy when I bring smiles to faces of folks known and newly met.  Right, sometimes me sharp tongue is not appreciated but that is a character flaw I am working on...

Just love to hear Patty and Alan roar with laughter at something said.  Am quite partial to hitting the mark in a post and receiving emails from folks who have been touched.


Monday, August 4, 2014

DEEP THOUGHTS ON FARTS

In the chapter dedicated to breaking wind, the author writes, 'Psychologists have paid little attention to the ludic aspects of flatulence.' 

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MORNING CUPPA

Got to have me morning cuppa to face the day.  Can you not tell that I am a little on the mean side with an empty cup?

Truth be told, was not ready for a friend to snap away with mobile.  Gave no time for me to SMILE...

Sunday, August 3, 2014

TALES OF WOE?


One of my more avid readers told in a post that he found 'happiness' in my tales of woe.  Fancy that...

I will allow the above snap speak for me.

Truth be told, in telling of my adventures, there be some who feel it is 'woe'.  Rather think of it as a colourful walk through life, full of rain as well as sunshine.....